Sometimes parents try to ignore their child’s bad behavior hoping it will just go away. Sometimes they believe the bad behavior is acceptable because their child is tired, sick, young. Sometimes parents are too tired to deal with their child’s bad behavior.
The trouble is that things can get worse. Giving in when your child has a tantrum teaches your child that they can cry and misbehave to get what they want. They may end up being the child who screams at and/or bullies other children if they don’t get what they want at playtime. They may end up as a teenager screaming at their parents for not getting what they want. Parents are not teaching them appropriate ways to express themselves by giving in.
What about the children who won’t clean up after themselves or do what they are told? If parents do everything for their child because it takes too much effort to get their child to comply they are teaching their child to be lazy. They are teaching their child that they don’t have to be responsible. They are teaching them that others will do for them. Parents are not teaching their child independence and responsibility.
What about the child who is given whatever they want? If parents get their children everything they want, they are spoiling their child. They are teaching them to feel entitled to whatever they want. Parents are not teaching their child about reality and problem solving.
It is much easier to work on these negative behaviors the younger the child is. The behaviors are less entrenched. Most young children want to please their parents, this makes it easier to shape more positive behavior. It can take some work but it’s well worth it in the long run. Your child can end up being an independent, self confident, fun person to be around.
So don’t just hope the bad behavior will go away, do something to change it