Hey all, just had a question for mama's of toddlers that didnt talk right away?
my son Jacob is going to be 2 next week and the only words he's really got down are "done" and "that". Ive been reading to him, talking to him, cut off binky's, explain things clearly and with articulation for a long while and it just doesnt really seem to be making much of a differance.
i know that he can understand everything that i'm saying but all he seems to do when he responds is scream. I'm about to cry and scream myself im so beyond everything. any advice or things you may have done differently?
Sometimes i stop myself and think its ok hes not even 2 yet i need to relax.. but i dont know if i could handle another year of no words.. advice? im willing to try anything!
i cant handle the screaming anymore. i think that its mainly brought on with his inablility to comunicate and hes getting frustrated to tears.. i think our relationship could be so much better if we could just understand eacother.!
I would recommend talking with your pediatrician. Some 2-year-olds don't have many words, but most are using more language (or nonverbal types of communication - e.g., pointing, eye gazing (sharing glances), sharing of objects, etc.) at this age. Since your pediatrician is the medical professional who has (most likely) known your son the longest, I would just express your concerns and see if he/she has a recommendation for how to continue (i.e., wait-and-see, Early Intervention, additional assessment, etc.). Good luck! It can be so frustrating for both you and your son if he's trying to communicate but not able to get his message across.
Hi Michelle! I agree with the moms recommending you talk with your pediatrician. I would go one step further and contact a Speech Pathologist. The range for normal development is very broad and your son could be one of those kids that just is a late talker and skips the one word stage and goes straight to sentences at 3 years, or there could be more to him not talking yet. It is best to respond to your instinct and Early Intervention will do no harm and only aid your son in his language development. A Speech Pathologist will help guide you in your communication with your son, his communication with you and aid that bond between you as you help your son develop. It is what they are trained to do.
Unfortunately I do not know a specific SLP to recommend to you, but I'm sure your ped/med insurance or maybe another mom could.
It is very frustrating when your child is struggling to communicate effectively, but know that you are not alone, there is lots of help available. :)
I agree with the other moms who recommend talking to your pediatrician, but I would encourage you to try to hang in there too. I have always heard that boys are more physical and girls are more verbal, so it's possible he's just not quite there yet. Another thing to consider might be his hearing. My husband actually didn't speak at all until he was past two, and when he was evaluated, part of the problem was that he had a slight deafness in one ear. It was not even enough to bother treating, but once his parents knew, they were able to adjust how they spoke to him - and he went on to develop and speak normally. And Joanna's tip about repeating what they say - I do that with my daughter too to try to help her along - it becomes natural and it might help him if he hears it repeated back to him.
I highly recommend you call your pediatrician who will almost surely recommend you call Regional Center of Orange County to start the process for speech evaluation. The South County phone number is 714-796-4060 and it usually takes a month or two to be approved for therapy. To speed up the process you can ask your pediatrician for a referral straight to a speech therapist and get your evaluation through your insurance.
It's true that some children are just late bloomers but many will remain delayed until an intervention (like speech therapy) is started. Generally, the earlier you start intervention the quicker they catch up. Kids generally love the therapy since it involves playing lots of games and puzzles with other kids and a nice therapist.
It was nice meeting you yesterday at the park playdate. Parker had fun running around with Jacob. I agree with Jennifer, It wont hurt to get an evaluation. If anything it will give you peace of mind. If Jacob is having some speech issues, early intervention is the best. I can imagine Jacob struggling to communicate with you can be frustrating to you both. Good luck and i am sure we will see you at another playdate soon. :)
Thank you all so much for all your help! I never knew about any of these resources for speach issues! I am JUST getting my new insurance cards for my new health care, luckily my pediatrician is still covered so I will be calling them today to have a well check. Again thank you all so much!
Talked to Jakes pediatrician again and she got us approved for speech therapy! hes got his first apt on mar31st. so excited! i cant wait to be able to talk to my little guy. 2 years is just TOO long to not talk to someone.
Perfect! So glad your insurance is going to help you with that. Even if it didn't, speech therapy will only help and will probably be just another fun "playdate" for him:) I have a speech pathologist friend and she always recommends this book to parents (it's a great book to understand how your baby communicates whether you suspect they have speech delays or not) it's called "It Takes Two To Talk." by Jan Pepper and Elaine Weitzman.